Has this ever happened to you?

Discussion in 'Sportbike Track Girl' started by misfit, Jun 3, 2011.

  1. misfit

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    I am not sure how to write this or if I should. But I was hoping that the girl community here might give me a little feedback.

    Rather than putting out hypotheticals, I'll give real examples. I'm a female rider, mainly track. There still aren't a whole lot of girls there. I'm single (ok, divorced), 37 y/o (UGH), and have a teenage daughter. Aside from the douches that hit on us that generally fall out of the picture quickly, I have made some very good guy friends via riding. Many of these guys are in relationships or married. Overall, I'd say most of their other halves don't come to the track and 'hate' the bikes. So I haven't had an opportunity to meet or get to know many of these women.

    Now..Facebook is great, but you know the pattern...meet someone on the track/street and become FB friends, or you become friends with friends of people via FB. I feel blessed to have met many riders, male and especially female, in this same fashion! Many of you girls I still haven't had a chance to meet in person, but I love chatting with you online and loosely following your riding successes.

    Now, not once, but twice in the past week (and never before now), I have gotten a FB message from a wife accusing me of sleeping with her husband. It is absolutely untrue. I would NEVER sleep with a married man. In the first case, I speak to the guy about twice a month, your typical how's it going, blah blah. I have not met his wife in person but met him on a street ride and then the track. They live in my home State, about 2,000 miles away from where I now reside. In the 2nd case, I talk to the guy often. We live close and are transportation buddies to the track, ride in the same level, both do some work for the track org, have common friends, pit in the same area, etc. I've been to his house and have met and hung out with his wife and 2 children. He's a very social person in general.

    I hate to lose good friends (and especially transportation! lol) over this, but I do, of course, want to respect the wives. I can understand they feel threatened, even if you try to be as transparent as possible, 'friend' them also on FB, etc. When you become 'one of the guys,' how do you stop the 'locker room talk' without making your guy friends wonder what's wrong with you? Not that it's that bad, but I can see the wives/gf's misunderstanding an inside joke or a stupid sexual reference (like 'I need to change out the rear', whatever) as something more than what it really is. Sometimes it just feels like I can't win for losing!

    I have made friends with a couple of the wives/gf's that are extremely supportive of their guys, and that may think I'm a little crazy, but not threatening. God love them! I may also ask their opinions in this matter.

    I just think it's ironic that most guys seem to want their wives/gf's to come with them to the track, and then here I am at the track and single, and not interested in a booty call. I'm there to do what I love, yet this happens.

    So I'm just wondering...have any of you girls found yourselves in similar situations??
     
  2. Thischickratherbridin

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    Sounds like those ladies are threatened by your independence. My guess is that they really wish they could ride but are too afraid, maybe.

    Ride it out (no pun intended). It's their problem, not yours. Do your thing, ride your ride and let the chips fall where they may!
     
  3. misfit

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    Thanks, Christi! I appreciate your support. I actually got a long apology today. Maybe I needed to be more patient. I was just pretty blindsided I suppose. Will just keep on, keepin' on, as they say. :)
     
  4. Jimbo

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    Great advice from BamBam. Just do your thing and don't worry about it. And don't let those coaches hit on ya either lol
     
  5. Aches

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    If you are ever looking for a riding partner ( ie just going out to ride not on the track ) I have a friend stationed in DC and his wife is a freaking hoot. He just wants to get out and ride and she isnt intimidated by any other female ever. only downside is he is a busa fanatic. but I have seen him throw that busa around a corner and like it was a gsxr-750
     
  6. misfit

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    Appreciate the feedback and offer! I don't have a street legal bike any more, but am always open for hanging out! And hopefully will get another street bike in the near future.
     
  7. Aches

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    Well he is looking into getting a track bike. will let you know how that goes. And I will tell him to come here to the forums and sign up
     
  8. MotorcycleMama

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    Yeah it happens all the time! It's just women with low self-esteem or who are in a trustless relationship. Oh well keep on biking LOL
     

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